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Learn How to Start a Home School for Your Attachment Challenged or Defiant Child From the Mother of Two Children Who Threw 3-8 Major Tantrums a DAY for the First 18 Months That She Knew Them |
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Get advice from a real mom who has been where you are and knows what you are going through...and has lived to tell the tale.
In late 2006 my husband and I were matched with two children to adopt from the foster care system. We knew they were considered "hard to place" because of their severe behaviors but we read every resource we could get our hands on and we thought we were reasonably ready. Unfortunately, everything we read and learned came from sources that were having a relatively low success rate with kids like ours. Over the course of the transition, the kids were violent with us often. We didn't have much of a honeymoon period with them and it started to sink in just how difficult this was going to be. We began searching for new techniques, something that wouldn't just control their behavior-- something that would help them heal. A few months into the transition (which was way too long--but that's another story...) we went to a training on a treacherous day in February. I'm so thankful we didn't turn the van around because of the weather. At that training we heard new information that taught us how to parent without depending on punishment. (Which had worked with our biological son, but was a waste of time when it came to our new son and daughter, then 5 and 6.) Julie Alvarado was a representative of the Post Institute at the time and had been working with kids using Bryan Post's strategies with great success. We latched onto these dynamic solutions that offered us the hope we'd been looking for. We learned the science behind what happens to a child's brain when he is abused or neglected. We learned how even a traumatic birth can cause damage to vital parts of the brain that later govern our relationships and ability to attach. We also learned that there was hope. The brain could heal from such damage under the right circumstances. Scientists who had been studying the affects of trauma on the brain had discovered that just six months in the home of understanding adoptive or foster parents, could start the brain toward healing in the areas that had been damaged. We were desperate to learn more--and after that day we were dedicated to learning everything we could about this type of parenting that was shared with us by the Post Institute for Family Centered Therapy. We had one biological son and though he had been excited about getting siblings, he was frustrated at being the target of so much anger and jealousy. As we explained to him our new plan, he began to approach his siblings differently and once they moved home permanently, and we had gotten better at changing our parening paradigm, our kids began to improve noticably. What does this have to do with homeschooling? From the beginning we planned to homeschool because we already homeschooled our oldest son but during the transition to adoption the oldest of our soon to be adopted children had to attend school. Honestly, the house was much quieter when he wasn't there and I had second thoughts about bringing him home. I knew however, that no matter what the school did, a school could not offer him the love and understanding of a mother. As the school year progressed , we were constantly being called into the principal's office and I knew I had no choice--I was going to have to bring him home before his spirit was crushed and his self-esteem became too damaged to recover. The school he was attending was incredibly helpful and the staff was following our advice (which caused things to improve dramatically). In spite of all this, though his teacher was one of the most loving women I've ever known, and one of the most competent teachers, even she agreed he needed me more than anyone else. Though I myself was a teacher, and though I was philisophically invested in the homeschooling idea, I was scared to death. Even with our new paradigm I knew teaching my son at home was going to be challenging. In addition, no one else we knew personally was attempting to home educate a child like ours the way we were doing it. Even our friends who had adopted and were homeschooling used consequences based parenting, which we could see wasn't working with our kids. You're still reading because you have a child like mine. You have been there with him every step of the way but he still struggles to get along at school. The kids tease him and the teachers run the other way when he walks into the building. In addition to this, maybe, like me, you have another child who also struggles--having tantrums one minute and clinging to you the next. You know your kids would benefit with more time with you--especially if they have attachment issues--but you are too afraid to tackle teaching them at home. You may even be a seasoned home educator who thought homeschooling your traumatized or adopted kids would be just like schooling your bio kids. Unfortunately, what worked with your biological kids misses the mark with your adopted kids, who are defiant and mouthy with you all day--maybe even violent at times. The violence in your home may be bad enough that you feel you have no choice but to send your child to school. Like us, you may be suffering from Post Traumatice Stress Disorder because of living with a child who so frequently verbally and physically assaults you. What if there were hope? What
if you could look into the future and see a home school where your
child
was thriving, learning, and had attached to you and your family members?
What if your home school could actually be the big tool in your attachment toolbox that leads your child to love and be loved? We have learned that adoptive parents and parents of kids with behavioral issues who attempt to homeschool often give up because the issues they face in addition to teaching are so overwhelming it causes them to throw in the towel. Fortunately, there is hope. I have now been home teaching my adopted children for over two years and in that time, we have learned parenting and teaching techniques that have turned our home into a place of learning, loving, and bonding. Even our "hard case" has become a good student and we have gone from 5+ tantrums per day to going weeks and weeks with no major issues at all. That is why I started the Parent to Parent Resource Club. My goal is to help parents like you, who are attempting to home teach kids who are considered the "toughest cases", the kids most public schools hold out little hope for...
What
is the Parent to Parent Resource Club?
 1.
A community
for parents to gather to encourage and help one another in their home
teaching
journey2. A place to hear from experts in the homeschooling world who have "been there, done that" before and are willing to lend their advice 3. A training ground for parents who are striving to connect with children who, for whatever reason, are resistant to typical parenting and teaching techniques 4. A "virtual toolbox" , linking users to the resources they need to home educate children with trauma histories, attachment issues, or behavioral challenges  Who could use the Parent to Parent Resource Club? * Parents considering starting a homeschool to reach and connect with their adopted children * Parents who are seasoned home educators struggling with attachment challenged kids * Parents of biological children who struggle with behavioral issues at school or at home * Parents who are new to homeschooling and are thinking of quitting because they have too many questions that aren't getting answered
The
bottom line is, I have a passion for helping families bring their
adopted kids home from public school in order to ensure that the
attachment these kids so desperately need happens. So many
adoptees grow up to realize they never really felt like a part of the
family and with 35 hours of the week taken up with school,
another 5-15 hours with homework, and activities on top of all that,
parents are left
with almost no time to bond with their adopted kids!
Homeschooling
solves
the big issue of not enough time
but many parents feel alone and ill-equipped to tackle home educating
their attachment challenged children. They understand the
opportunity is there to create attachment by increasing the time spent
with adopted kids but they are afraid to do it by themselves.
This is why I created the Parent to Parent Resource Club. Here's what you get with your membership: On the site: 1. Exclusive access to a forum of parents who are also homeschooling adopted children 2. Email access to Tim and Sandra Nardoni--the founders of the Club and homeschooling parents of adopted children with severe behaviors. 3. A monthly call with Sandra or another homeschooling or adoption expert. On the call, you can ask questions and get answers about severe behaviors and homeschooling. Plus, each call will have a theme or topic of interest to homeschoolers. Each call is then uploaded to the site in MP3 format. 4. Links to articles, curriculum reviews, special websites and more to help you on your homeschooling journey. 5. PDF Newsletter uploaded monthly to the site for you to download
By now, I'm sure you see the value of this membership. A place to get advice, support, and the tools you need to implement teaching your kids at home. But, just to make sure you are completely happy, I'm offering you a money-back guarantee. If you aren't happy with your membership after 30 days, you can request a refund for your first month's fee and I'll return your money, no questions asked.
In addition to your membership, just for signing up you get five free bonuses. These
bonuses have been designed to be a "getting started" kit.
When
you start homeschooling, sometimes it's hard to know where to start.
These bonuses will give you the information you need to make
a
strong start, not only with academics, but also with relationship.
Warmly, Sandra Nardoni P.S. -The forum, newsletter, group calls, CD recordings, webinar trainings, book reviews, curriculum picks, and individual attention you need are all included in this membership! P.P.S-Starting off on the
right foot will save you months of frustration so don't wait--order
now!
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